I posted a few days ago about the importance of getting out of our bubbles, but we also use our bubbles to keep people out. We use them as shields to protect our vulnerabilities. We stay in our bubbles with people who are like us, people who are open to who we are, because we feel safer that way.
If we stay in our bubbles, we don’t have to fear those outside the bubbles.
If we stay in the closet, we don’t have to fear those outside the closet.
But the reality is that we still fear them. We always do. It’s the fear that makes the bubble possible. And the longer we stay in our bubbles the more we fear what’s outside.
And even worse, if we all stay in our bubbles, if we all separate and hide ourselves from those outside our bubbles, the people outside our bubbles will continue to fear us as well. And the harsh truth is that no one has ever hidden in their own bubble of seclusion long enough to win acceptance and safety from the world outside that bubble.
One of the most powerfully revolutionary things a person can do in this world is open their bubble and let everyone in. Coming out of our bubbles, our closets, our sanctuaries is the first step to changing the world. We have to interact with it, confront it, welcome it in order to conduct the kind of experiential dialog which breaks down the foundations of fear.
How is the world to understand those of us who are different if we’re hiding the fact that we’re different?
How is the world to change to embrace us if we keep it at arm’s length?
How are we to find our allies if we do not open ourselves up to interaction?
If the world is telling us that we aren’t real, that we’re not welcome, that we have no place, how are we going to change it if we don’t open up our bubbles and step out to prove we’re real, to seek the welcome we deserve, to make our place?